By Dr. Jason Robinson

As fathers, the role we play in our children’s lives is incomparable. We are called to be protectors, providers, and spiritual leaders, guiding them with wisdom and love. One of the most powerful tools we have is our words.

Words can help shape our children’s identity, instill in them the values of the Kingdom, and draw them closer to God. Whether they are young children under our care or adults navigating the complexities of life, the words we speak can fill their hearts with truth and life.

The Power of Your Words

Scripture reminds us of the power our words carry. Proverbs 18:21 says, "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." As a father, every word you speak over your children can either build them up or tear them down. Your words can affirm their God-given worth or sow seeds of doubt and insecurity.

When your children are young, they look to you for guidance and approval. They absorb your words, forming their understanding of themselves and the world around them. Words of affirmation, encouragement, and correction, when delivered with love, can help set them on a path of righteousness.

Scripture highlights how important it is to share God’s truth with your children. Doing this helps establish a strong faith foundation that will support them, even when you are not physically present.

These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down, and when you get up. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)

Speaking Truth and Life to Adult Children

When your children reach adulthood, your responsibilities shift, but the influence of your words stays just as strong. Adult children face different challenges, and they often need reassurance and wisdom more than ever. Even if they are independent, they might still seek and appreciate your advice.

Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to "speak the truth in love," which is extremely important when dealing with adult children. No matter whether they are making life decisions, facing trials, or simply navigating everyday life, your words of truth, grounded in love and scripture, can offer them the direction and comfort they need.

Additionally, it is important to remind them of their identity in Christ. In a world that often seeks to define them by its standards, remind your children that they are "fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14) and that God's love for them is unconditional.

Praying for Estranged or Prodigal Children

For some fathers, the journey is marked by heartache due to estranged or prodigal children. If you find yourself in this place, know that your prayers are powerful, and God hears every cry of your heart. The story of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32 is a powerful reminder of God’s redemptive love and the hope we have in Him. Just as the father in the parable never gave up on his son, keep believing that God is at work in your child’s life, even when you can’t see it. Your prayers are meaningful, my friend. Continue believing that one day your child’s eyes will be opened, and they will see truth again.

”Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” (Romans 12:12)

A Prayer for Fathers

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the incredible gift of fatherhood. I ask for Your strength and wisdom to guide my children in Your truth. Help me to always share words of encouragement and life with them, regardless of their age. Jesus, may my words reflect Your love, and may my children see You in my actions.

I also pray for fathers who are struggling with estranged or wandering children. Give them peace and hope. Remind them that You are a God who heals and restores. May they keep praying and trusting in Your power to bring their children home again. Surround them with Your comfort and reassure them that You are always working, even when things seem hopeless.

In the powerful name of Jesus, we pray.

Amen

Dr. Jason Robinson is a Professor of Education at Lee University in southeast Tennessee. Jason is a local, state, and national award-winning educator who has a passion for teaching and equipping the next generation of leaders. He and his family reside in Cleveland, Tennessee.